Episodes

Monday Jun 09, 2025
Monday Jun 09, 2025
There's a difference between being an actual victim and victim mentality. Real harm (abuse, loss, institutional failures) isn't your fault, but staying trapped in blame keeps you miserable. An atheist once told me to own my choices after leaving religion—life-changing! Jesus makes accountability less scary because His partnership heals us even when we're wrong. Ask God: "Where's my accountability?" Freedom comes through taking responsibility for what we can control while healing from what we couldn't.

Friday Jun 06, 2025
Friday Jun 06, 2025
My 3-year-old Sophie is snuggling with me today (perfect timing for this topic!). My friend shared something profound: relief often doesn't come in our darkest closet-floor moments—it comes after we somehow get back up and keep trying. When I look back at my lowest points, I couldn't feel God then, but now I see He was carrying me through pain so deep that even divine help felt absent. Gather evidence from your own life of when relief came—maybe not on your timeline, but it did come. Deep breath. Let's go.

Thursday Jun 05, 2025
Thursday Jun 05, 2025
With endless spiritual resources, I sometimes replace my own investment in God with other people's content! While podcasts are great, nothing replaces YOUR relationship with the divine. Living differently than those around you requires personal divine guidance. After a year in AA with people of all belief systems, the common thread was: personal relationship with a higher power matters most. Pick something simple and sustainable—one prayer, four minutes of reading—consistency builds connection better than grand gestures.

Wednesday Jun 04, 2025
Wednesday Jun 04, 2025
Let's talk about stopping the gatekeeping of God! We make up rules about where He can be found and what makes us "worthy," but I find God at Chili's over Diet Coke and chips—those booth conversations are sacred! The only requirement for finding Him is seeking Him. You might study your Bible and feel nothing, then feel divinity during an Eminem song (don't ask). Stop putting restrictions on access to God. Be surprised by where He shows up in your day.

Tuesday Jun 03, 2025
Tuesday Jun 03, 2025
You've been asking, so here's my honest answer: I choose organized religion right now because it helps me prioritize service and Christ in ways I otherwise wouldn't. I'm not saying it's essential for faith or being good—I've been both in and out of religion twice! But with full-time work and kids in high-demand stages, I don't have extra capacity. Religion gives me built-in community, service opportunities, and worship practices without me having to create it all myself. Desperation brought me back to God, but community brought me back to church. Whatever stage you're in—exploring, wandering, or fully committed—I respect it all.

Monday Jun 02, 2025
Monday Jun 02, 2025
Sometimes you don't know what you believe until you say it out loud! Sharing beliefs—even before we're sure—can confirm or shift what we think. Whether it's faith, money, or relationships, saying things out loud releases shame and clarifies truth. I know I just said you don't owe declarations, but safe conversations with trusted friends are the experimental lab for building beliefs. Call someone today and practice saying what you think you believe—you might surprise yourself!

Friday May 30, 2025
Friday May 30, 2025
Obviously this hit me as a metaphor during a grief walk. A life with no resistance isn't fulfilling—it won't bring depth or teach resilience. Whatever clouds you're facing are likely reflecting your light, even when you can't see it. Don't run from resistance; it's what makes life remarkable. Go look at the sky today and tell me there's no divinity in that!

Thursday May 29, 2025
Thursday May 29, 2025
Sometimes we need breaks from heaviness, and that's healthy coping, not avoidance. When faith questions get overwhelming, you don't have to solve everything RIGHT NOW. You can live in uncertainty, say "I don't know," and take breaks without owing anyone explanations. The big questions will still be there when you're ready to pick them back up.

Wednesday May 28, 2025
Wednesday May 28, 2025
Let's talk about service with nuance—I'm not advocating for martyrdom! If we want community we need to BE the community. My new mantra: the more I give, the more I'll have to give—it's a divine refill system!

Tuesday May 27, 2025
Tuesday May 27, 2025
Is prayer real or just fancy wishing? What if our prayers create actual energetic particles that others can pick up? I know I sound crazy with zero evidence, but I've been theorizing about quantum physics and spiritual particles. Maybe prayer isn't about worthiness—maybe it's about aligning ourselves to send and receive mysterious spiritual signals. There's no wrong way to try!